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A to Z of Divorce – G is for Grateful

Posted by on Feb 23, 2017 in A-Z, All, during divorce articles

A to Z of Divorce – G is for Grateful

Are you a grateful divorce-er? We are told by self help gurus that practising gratitude every day makes you a healthy happier person. This may be true, but during a divorce it is very difficult to feel grateful. You may feel your world has fallen apart, the universe is ending and life as you know it is about to cease. Or you may be irritated, dispirited, annoyed, angry and generally cheesed off with the world. All of these are understandable and totally justified emotions. Now I am not going to say you should put aside all negative emotions, pretend you are Pollyana and have a fixed smile on...

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A to Z of Divorce – F is for Finances

Posted by on Sep 14, 2016 in A-Z, All, during divorce articles

A to Z of Divorce – F is for Finances

Finances. A word to strike terror into the heart, even when not divorcing! Problems with finances in divorce can begin even before the divorce is finalised. Couples remain living together because one can’t afford to buy the other out. Separated, they live under the same roof causing difficulties and awkwardness over “passing the sugar”. Property prices are constantly rising and living together can be a practical solution. But it can muddy the waters, either allowing a friendship to remain (when you should be emotionally separating yourselves) or hostility to increase. There can also be...

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A to Z of divorce – E is for Energy

Posted by on Jul 11, 2016 in A-Z, All, during divorce articles

A to Z of divorce – E is for Energy

How to manage your energy in divorce ‘Energy?’, you ask, ‘In divorce? – But I don’t have any!’ Divorce is a life event that can sap your energy, leave you hanging on by your fingertips and crush your soul. It doesn’t have to, but it can. I generally try to keep my articles upbeat with a generous sprinkling of reality (relentlessly cheerful self-help articles put my pancreas on sugar overload). I definitely don’t want to do articles like misery memoirs! But divorce is, it has to be said, gruelling. Let’s take a quick look at why, then I’ll give...

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A to Z of Divorce – D is for Divorce Decisions

Posted by on Jun 20, 2016 in A-Z, All, before divorce articles, during divorce articles

A to Z of Divorce – D is for Divorce Decisions

Divorce Decisions Decisions! Divorce is full of them. The big, key, kicker decision is whether to divorce, whether to embark on what will be a difficult, or at least uncertain, journey into a different life. Then divorce itself is full of tricky decisions. Which lawyer to use. Whether to use a lawyer at all. How much to stay in touch with your ex. Practical decisions around divorce include where to live, who will look after the kids and how the finances can be organised, on a day-today basis , while you are divorcing. Eventually at the end of the tunnel of divorce you get to make decisions...

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A to Z of Divorce – C for Courage

Posted by on May 24, 2016 in A-Z, All

A to Z of Divorce – C for Courage

Alright, I’ll come out and say it, you need plenty of courage if you are going to divorce. It’s not battlefield courage, or open heart surgery courage or Superman courage, but, definitely courage is needed. So let’s look at this in small easy steps. If you are thinking about divorce or at a stage where you just want to give up, read on. I don’t want to put your off divorce if that is the right way to go. But deciding to divorce, that’s a huge decision. There are so many ways of doing it. And at each stage in the divorce process there are times when you want to give up. You may feel...

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A to Z of Divorce – B is for Beginnings

Posted by on May 19, 2016 in A-Z, All

A to Z of Divorce – B is for Beginnings

A to Z of Divorce | B is for Beginnings | Divorce can encompass many beginnings but is usually seen as an ending. Human like beginnings. We like small, beginning animals – babies, puppies, kittens. We like any product with the label ‘new’ on it as it promises the magic that some of its newness will rub off on us, that our life will be transformed by it. Usually we like the idea of our own new beginnings; a new job, a new course, a new house and, of course, a new life through marriage. Endings we are not so hot on. Endings can also be good but are often associated with loss, sadness, grief....

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